Going it alone?
Being a women in your 30’s brings up so many questions, many of which I didn’t even stop to think about in my 20’s, probably because, like many I was enjoying the moment rather than worrying too much about the future!
No one can predict the future, but at 38 I was genuinely worried that my chances of becoming a parent were slipping away, something that really scared me. So when I looked around the room of the fertility seminar that I attended at the clinic, I wondered how many other women found themselves there for the same or similar reasons?
My mind was already made up prior to that day, I knew that I wasn’t ready to give up on the idea that there was still time to meet my special someone. Someone that wanted the same things in life, including having a child and together, watching that child grow up. The option of IVF with a sperm donor just wasn’t something that I could get my head around, it seemed too final, too much like I had given up on my dream. To many this is the only option and you never know it may only be mine in the future, but I wasn’t willing to make that decision at that time. After all I had always hoped that I would bring a child into this world with the love and support of the baby’s father.
To anyone that is considering any form of fertility treatment, I can’t stress enough how comforting, but at the same time empowering I found the hour I spent in the company of these women.
I have no idea how many of the women were there in search of answers, reassurance, knowledge, or may be a combination of all 3, but one thing is for sure, all of us had one thing in common we didn’t ever think we would have ended up here! I will never know whether their plans included the support of a partner, or whether they were going solo, but I will always remember the feeling I left the clinic with that day…… I wasn’t on my own!