Do Opposites Really Attract?
I’ve always wondered whether this is, as people say the winning formula for a successful relationship, or does it cause more problems than actually producing happy long-term relationships?
When I was in my 20’s I thought the guy I was meant to be with was someone with a similar personality and possibly background, but as I look around at the majority of my friends and family’s relationships I realise my thoughts have shifted so much since then.
Most of my friends’ partners have opposite strengths and weaknesses, either in terms of practical abilities or personality traits. This seems to make them stronger as individuals and certainly gives the impression of a strong and happy partnership.
Once the honeymoon period has ended, and you get into the day to day of a relationship, I wonder if there is a winning formula for a long lasting happy relationship?
As I get older, (and obviously wiser), I think there’s a lot to be said for having similar goals and perhaps a common direction in life. I do believe common interests matter, but from what I’ve seen and experienced, knowing that you’re both on the same page in terms of where you’re heading has a far greater importance than it did years ago.
Although none of us really know what we’ll be like or what we’ll be doing in 20/30 years, being in a loving relationship with someone who you share some interests, as well as have common hopes and dreams sounds like a pretty good place to be.
I believe that person is still out there somewhere, perhaps they’ll turn up when I least expect it.
