• World Suicide Prevention Day

    When asked, ‘how are you?’ how many of us simply reply ‘I’m OK’, even though we may not be. We all have highs and lows but, unfortunately for some, the lows are more constant and more extreme. I can’t imagine what it must be like if that’s your default response, yet feeling low was a more regular state of mind and there’s no one you can rely on for support. In recent years it seems suicide has touched my family and friends in one way or another, and as a mental health advocate it saddens me that people feel that there is no way out, that suicide is the only…

  • Resilience…..what time has taught me!

    It’s been a while since you heard from me, but I’ve always said I would only carry on writing here if it continued to feel cathartic, or I had something to share that may help someone else. So, the fact that I’m writing again hopefully means this might be of interest to someone out there! I’m still on a steep learning curve on the coaching course that I started last year, and definitely one of self discovery, but it has also opened my eyes to some of thing reasons behind we think, feel and behave the way we do. That sounds pretty heavy stuff, but today I’m going to try…

  • support through grief

    Grief – it can hit us when we least expect it!

    The thing is with grief, there seems to be no pattern, rhyme or reason why or when it hits us. In my experience, how we cope with different degrees of grief is dependant on the quality of support we have from those closest to us and how it defines us. Even when we are silent in our grief, that doesn’t mean we’re ok. Sometimes we all need to lift our heads, look around and ask our friends if they’re ok, because often what people portray on the outside isn’t always what they’re feeling. As most of us recognise, grief doesn’t get any easier to cope with as we get older. It…

  • Acceptance New Year

    Acceptance…..A New Year’s resolution?!

    Letting go can mean a lot of different things to people for various reasons, but for me, it’s meant letting go of what could have been in order to focus on the possibilities of the future. The future can be a scary thing when everything seems so uncertain, but when the fog lifts it’s amazing how things which once seem daunting can start to seem exciting. As someone wise once said to me, you sometimes have to shut the door behind you in order to pave a new way forward, a sentiment that sits with me as I start this year. I believe part of letting go comes down to acceptance, something which I…

  • Loneliness – what does it mean to you?

    It’s all too easy to have the mindset that loneliness comes down to what type of person you are or what your current situation is, but who does it really affect and why? When I was growing up the most obvious ‘group’ to be affected by loneliness was the elderly. My granddad passed away shortly after I was born, which meant my Nan lived alone for almost 40 years. She was quite isolated living in the countryside having never had passed her driving test, which combined with losing many of her friends as the years progressed left her spending a lot of time by herself. In many ways she was…